the freedom of choice

can one really forgive and forget? or do you forgive but not forget? or maybe not forgive, but how can you forget?

i have forgiven a lot of people who have wronged me, but it's just difficult not forget each ills and wrong doing they have subjected me to. i always thought, then and now, that it's my prerogative to forgive but not forget. it is not an option for me to forgive and just forget - the combination of these two simply don't add up. perhaps to some, but not to me. however, i have learned to let go of things i have no control of. not totally forgetting, just not let it bother me. how do i do that? i'm not so sure myself.

we all live in the shadows of our pasts - we all have our "ghosts" within our subconciousness. it is always the question of either you let yourself be held captive of your "ghost" in everything you do and everywhere you go, or you put your "ghosts" locked in your subconcious' mental box and leave it there in its own agony and self-destruction to wilt and fade.

we, as human beings, were blessed with the most precious gift of all - the freedom of choice. a lot of opportunities are presented to us in all forms, shapes and sizes - we are given the power and ability to choose. nobody's perfect - that much we all know. no choice is right or wrong. it is a choice ... and what's great about it is that it's something you picked and decided on. its consequence, whether good or bad, is your own doing. you have to deal with it, learn from it and put them into its right perspective. keep in mind that picking the wrong choice will not make your existence in this world crumble - it's a mere wake up call. it gives you another opportunity to correct the picture ... you improvise and make things better. to wallow over the result of your mistake or wrong choice will not help you feel better. get it over and done with - move on to the next challenge at hand.

we all live our lives according to the choices we made ... if you stumble on a heavy block, you should always be able to find ways to get through it - never let it be there in all of your waking hours ... act on it! make a choice .... live by it ... nurture it for your own peace of mind.

forgive and forget? make a choice on what works for you. when you've pick on the choice you want, get on with your life - live it to the fullest ... that's what i always do. i sure hope this would work for you, too.